Winning your ex back

With some relationship comes heartache from a breakup and there is nothing worse than breaking up with someone and then realising you have made the wrong decision. Sometimes, there is no return when a couple splits, but in lieu of forcing someone against their will to get back with you, there are a few tricks to help you revive the flame. Here are some tips on reclaiming lost love.

Firstly, you need to ask yourself why it is that you have changed your mind and why you want them back. Is it because they have moved on with someone new and now you realise what you’ve lost? Maybe you are feeling lonely? Neither of these are grounds to get back together so if this is the case, move on.

If it is because you can’t imagine being without him, love him more than anything and know he is the one for you, don’t just expect them to come running back into your arms, just because you have had a change of heart or realised you made a bad decision. You have to do the work and make them feel wanted. Try to avoid the whole desperate-crazy-ex-look. It’s hardly attractive and will only make them escape you even more.

In regards to the first tip, this means that you need to retain some form of self-respect and dignity. Try to remember why it was that you both fell in love, what he liked about you and the qualities than he admired in you. You still have these things, which mean there is a chance, so long as nobody cheated.

Don’t constantly hound them with calls or texts and certainly don’t beg. Give them some space and time and let him process things. When people break up, they break up for a reason and therefore he may be wary history could repeat itself.

On the other hand, he could have moved already, be in another relationship or dating someone. This could leave him torn between something new and exciting or something with fond memories that’s comfortable and familiar. Therefore, to reiterate the point, give him somespace.

When he is ready to talk about things, you need to make sure that you really let him know how sorry you are for putting him through the upset and mean it from the bottom of your heart. Admit that you were wrong, your remorse and tell him how you are committed to making things better.

If he decides to leave the past where it belongs and forgive and forget, then you both need to focus on what’s ahead and the future. However, if it comes to leaving the relationship as it is now, broken, then you need to be able to walk away, no matter what his reasons.

If friendship is all that can happen between the two of you, then truly be his friend. When it comes to love, things aren’t always what they seem and they can feel over when actually they aren’t. Sometimes, the greatest loves are built on strong friendships so you never know what may happen in the future.